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21 Inspirerende Quotes

Op staat een artikel met 21 meest inspirerende quotes dat op 17 augustus 2016 werd gepubliceerd.

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

If you look closely, you’ll notice the energy of inspiration is all around. From the rising sun to a placid lake on a warm summer night; from our favorite books to our own reflections, the places and things from which we can draw inspiration are infinite. And the best part is that every day is a chance to capture this energy—to seek out all of life’s possibilities.

As you aspire to do great things, use these uplifting quotes for inspiration to be all you can be.

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

1. “Keep your face always toward the sunshine—and shadows will fall behind you.” —Walt Whitman2

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

2. “It is always the simple that produces the marvelous.” —Amelia Barr

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

3. “The world is full of magical things patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper.” —Bertrand Russell

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

4. “Let us make our future now, and let us make our dreams tomorrow’s reality.” —Malala Yousafzai

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

5. “All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.” —Earl Nightingale

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

6. “The glow of one warm thought is to me worth more than money.” —Thomas Jefferson1

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

7. “Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” —E. E. Cummings

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

8. “The power of imagination makes us infinite.” —John Muir

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

9. “Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.” —Maya Angelou1

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

10. “I believe that if one always looked at the skies, one would end up with wings.” —Gustave Flaubert

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

11. “I dwell in possibility.” —Emily Dickinson

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

12. “Light tomorrow with today.” —Elizabeth Barrett Browning

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

13. “I arise full of eagerness and energy, knowing well what achievement lies ahead of me.” —Zane Grey

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

14. “A No. 2 pencil and a dream can take you anywhere.” —Joyce Meyer

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

15. “When the sun is shining I can do anything; no mountain is too high, no trouble too difficult to overcome.” —Wilma Rudolph

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

16. Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” —Jim Rohn2

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

17. “In a gentle way, you can shake the world.” —Mahatma Gandhi

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

18. “Let your life lightly dance on the edges of time like dew on the tip of a leaf.” —Rabindranath Tagore

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

19. “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.” —Joseph Campbell

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

20. “Each day provides its own gifts.” —Marcus Aurelius

21 of the Most Inspirational Quotes

21. “Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.” —Nathaniel Hawthorne

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15 Keuzes waar je meteen gelukkig van wordt

Op staan deze praktische 15 tips die je helpen om meteen gelukkig te zijn.

15 Little Choices That Will Make You Happy Now

There’s a science to being happy, and it’s not as complicated as we sometimes think. According to research from happiness expert Sonja Lyubomirsky, only about 10 percent of our happiness comes from external circumstances (where we live, how much money we earn, etc.). We get another 50 percent of our happiness from our genes. And 40 percent is within our control. It comes directly from the choices we make.

Science now tells us that the lifestyle portion of our happiness is the only part that’s within our control, and we can optimize it by making tiny changes in how we live. Here are 15 scientifically proven suggestions for where to start.

1. Stop “hanging out” and commit.

Being in a committed relationship makes you happier than being single.

2. Go dancing.

Moving to upbeat music releases chemicals that will boost your mood.

3. Be a good Samaritan.

As it turns out, money can buy happiness — if you use it to help others.

4. Make every day Thanksgiving.

Expressing gratitude for what you have does wonders for your overall well-being.

5. Hug it out.

Touch is huge for happiness! Hugging your children makes them better-adjusted adults, and you benefit from it, too.

6. Bring home fresh flowers.

The aroma of flowers can spike those mood-improving chemicals almost instantly.

7. Sit down and shut up.

No surprise here. Daily meditation super-sizes satisfaction from the inside out.

8. Do some burpees.

Intense exercise releases endorphins, a major factor in feelings of well-being.

9. Take the hourly job over a salary.

Hourly employees are statistically happier than salaried employees.

10. Hit the snooze button six times.

An additional hour of sleep each night increases life satisfaction significantly.

11. Become a master.

Evidently, when you work to master a skill, you become happier in the long term.

12. Stop dressing like a New Yorker.

Wearing all black actually has a negative effect on your state of mind. Start wearing brighter colors, especially yellow.

13. Invest in experiences rather than things.

Deciding between a new speaker system and a vacation? Statistics showgoing on vacation will give you greater life satisfaction over time.

14. Live with passion.

Identifying and sharing your life’s purpose is one of the keys to sustaining happiness into old age.

15. Sign up for that timeshare in Hawaii.

Spending time in warm-weather climates reduces stress levels and boosts happiness. Color me surprised.

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11 Inspirerende quotes to brighten your day

Op staat onderstaande lijst met inspirerende quotes. Voor een goed begin van je weekend! 😉

11 Remarkably Inspirational Quotes to Brighten Your Day

Want to have an enlightened and successful day? Start your day with these 11 inspiring quotes.

Searching for something to ignite the spark of motivation within so that you can make the most of your day? Sometimes, a little bit of inspiration from someone else can go a long way.

Check out these 11 inspiring quotes that’ll undoubtedly help brighten your day.

1. “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” –Walt Disney

This message was sent again and again through Disney’s movies–to believe in and have the courage to chase after the things you wish for the most in your life. He believed that, at the end of the day, maybe dreams really do come true.

2. “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” –Milton Berle

One of the simplest things we forget in our everyday lives is that we make our own opportunities. Nothing gets handed to us on a silver platter. So, go out and create your next opportunity for yourself today.

3. “Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo Da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.” –H. Jackson Brown Jr.

All too often, we use the same excuse for our failures–we don’t have enough time. Everyone who has accomplished great things in life has made the time with the same number of hours in a day that we have.

4. “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” –Albert Einstein

One of the most heralded minds of 20th century physics, Einstein definitely understood the power of marveling at the world. Add a bit of wonder to your perspective to refresh how you see the world each day.

5. “It is never too late to be what you might have been.” –George Eliot

It never hurts to hear a short reminder that we can, indeed, always be whoever we want to be. As we grow older and our lives become more complicated, we sometimes forget that we still have time to accomplish all those things we have always dreamed about.

6. “What the mind can conceive, it can achieve.” –Napoleon Hill

If you can dream it, you can definitely create it–if there is a will, there is a way, always.

7. “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” –Eleanor Roosevelt

Don’t waste your time gossiping about others or spend all of your time reminiscing about things that happened in the past. Turn your focus to what can be–the future and the many possibilities–and begin planning.

8. “I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become.” –Oprah Winfrey

When she said this, Oprah understood that where we spend time in our minds is what we choose to devote our energy to. Place your thoughts somewhere worthwhile. Your future success will depend on it.

9. “I haven’t failed. I just know 10,000 ways that won’t work.” –Thomas Edison

All failures are simply another try at something that hasn’t yet succeeded. Always see failure as a chance to grow.

10. “Believe you can, and you’re halfway there.” –Theodore Roosevelt

Maintaining a solid self-confidence and belief in ourselves along the way is definitely the key to success.

11. “One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the beautiful.” –Sigmund Freud

There is, after all, some kind of profound, remarkable beauty in the breakdown. We just don’t see it until it’s past. Try to enjoy and see the beauty in now.

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10 Slechte gewoonten van chronisch ongelukkige mensen

In dit artikel uit de Huffington Post een overzicht van 10 slechte gewoonten, waar we ons allemaal wel eens schuldig aan maken ;-), die ons als we niet oppassen chronisch ongelukkig maken.

10 Troubling Habits of Chronically Unhappy People

Happiness comes in so many different forms that it can be hard to define. Unhappiness, on the other hand, is easy to identify; you know it when you see it, and you definitely know when it’s taken ahold of you.

Unhappiness is lethal to everyone around you, just like second-hand smoke. The famous Terman Study from Stanford followed subjects for eight decades and found that being around unhappy people is linked to poorer health and a shorter life span.

Happiness has much less to do with life circumstances than you might think. A University of Illinois study found that people who earn the most (more than $10 million annually) are only a smidge happier than the average Joes and Janes who work for them.

Life circumstances have little to do with happiness because much happiness is under your control–the product of your habits and your outlook on life. Psychologists from the University of California who study happiness found that genetics and life circumstances only account for about 50% of a person’s happiness. The rest is up to you.

“The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.” – Benjamin Franklin

Unhappy Habits

When people are unhappy, it’s much more difficult to be around them, let alone work with them. Unhappiness drives people away, creating a vicious cycle that holds you back from achieving everything that you’re capable of.

Unhappiness can catch you by surprise. So much of your happiness is determined by your habits (in thought and deed) that you have to monitor them closely to make certain that they don’t drag you down into the abyss.

Some habits lead to unhappiness more than others do. You should be especially wary of the ten habits that follow as they are the worst offenders. Watch yourself carefully to make certain that these habits are not your own.

Waiting for the future. Telling yourself, “I’ll be happy when …” is one of the easiest unhappy habits to fall into. How you end the statement doesn’t really matter (it might be a promotion, more pay, or a new relationship) because it puts too much emphasis on circumstances, and improved circumstances don’t lead to
happiness. Don’t spend your time waiting for something that’s proven to have no effect on your mood. Instead focus on being happy right now, in the present moment, because there’s no guarantee of the future.

Spending too much time and effort acquiring “things.” People living in extreme poverty experience a significant increase in happiness when their financial circumstances improve, but it drops off quickly above $20,000 in annual income. There’s an ocean of research that shows that material things don’t make you happy. When you make a habit of chasing things, you are likely to become unhappy because, beyond the disappointment you experience once you get them, you discover that you’ve gained them at the expense of the real things that can make you happy, such as friends, family, and hobbies.

Staying home. When you feel unhappy, it’s tempting to avoid other people. This is a huge mistake as socializing, even when you don’t enjoy it, is great for your mood. We all have those days when we just want to pull the covers over our heads and refuse to talk to anybody, but understand that the moment this becomes a tendency, it destroys your mood. Recognize when unhappiness is making you antisocial, force yourself to get out there and mingle, and you’ll notice the difference right away.

Seeing yourself as a victim. Unhappy people tend to operate from the default position that life is both hard and out of their control. In other words, “Life is out to get me, and there’s nothing I can do about it.” The problem with that philosophy is that it fosters a feeling of helplessness, and people who feel helpless aren’t likely to take action to make things better. While everyone is certainly entitled to feel down every once in a while, it’s important to recognize when you’re letting this affect your outlook on life. You’re not the only person that bad things happen to, and you do have control over your future as long as you’re willing to take action.

Pessimism. Nothing fuels unhappiness quite like pessimism. The problem with a pessimistic attitude, beyond it being hard on your mood, is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you expect bad things, you’re more likely to get bad things. Pessimistic thoughts are hard to shake off until you recognize how illogical they are. Force yourself to look at the facts, and you’ll see that things are not nearly as bad as they seem.

Complaining itself is troubling as well as the attitude that precedes it. Complaining is a self-reinforcing behavior. By constantly talking–and therefore thinking–about how bad things are, you reaffirm your negative beliefs. While talking about what bothers you can help you feel better, there’s a fine line between complaining being therapeutic and it fueling unhappiness. Beyond making you unhappy, complaining drives other people away.

Blowing things out of proportion. Bad things happen to everybody. The difference is that happy people see them for what they are–a temporary bummer–whereas unhappy people see anything negative as further evidence that life is out to get them. A happy person is upset if they have a fender bender on the way to work, but they keep things in perspective: “What a hassle, but at least it wasn’t more serious.” An unhappy person, on the other hand, uses it as proof that the day, the week, the month, maybe even their whole life, is doomed.

Sweeping problems under the rug. Happy people are accountable for their actions. When they make a mistake, they own it. Unhappy people, on the other hand, find problems and mistakes to be threatening, so they try to hide them. Problems tend to get bigger when they’re ignored. The more you don’t do anything about a problem, the more it starts to feel as though you can’t do anything about it, and then you’re right back to feeling like a victim.

Not improving. Because unhappy people are pessimists and feel a lack of control over their lives, they tend to sit back and wait for life to happen to them. Instead of setting goals, learning, and improving themselves, they just keep plodding along, and then they wonder why things never change.

Trying to keep up with the Joneses. Jealousy and envy are incompatible with happiness, so if you’re constantly comparing yourself with others, it’s time to stop. In one study, most subjects said that they’d be okay with making less money, but only if everybody else did too. Be wary of this kind of thinking as it won’t make you happy and, more often than not, has the opposite effect.

Bringing It All Together

Changing your habits in the name of greater happiness is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. But it’s also important for another reason–taking control of your happiness makes everyone around you happier too.


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De 6 sleutels tot meer geluk en succes

Op de site van Business Insider ( staat onderstaand artikel met een beschrijving van 6 sleutels tot meer geluk en succes.

A Stanford psychologist says these 6 things are the keys to happiness and success

If you want to be successful, you should work as hard as possible and suffer, right? Or so we’re told.

But that notion is completely wrong, according to psychologist Emma Seppala, science director of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education at Stanford University.

As Seppala explains in her new book “The Happiness Track: How to Apply the Science of Happiness to Accelerate Your Success,” being successful and being happy are not mutually exclusive.

“We have this misconception that in order to be successful, we have to postpone or sacrifice our happiness now,” Seppala told Business Insider.

Seppala has scoured the research and identified six things that she says are key to being happy and successful:

1. Live in the moment

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In today’s working world, we’re encouraged to work nonstop in order to stay on top of everything. We’re also constantly checking things off our to-do lists. But research suggests that when we’re focused on the present, we’re much more productive and more charismatic.

The Hungarian psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi describes the experience of being intensely focused on something while enjoying what you’re doing as the “flow” state. His research suggests that whether you’re an Olympic athlete or a mathematician, you are at your best when you’re in flow.

2. Be resilient

When we’re constantly working ourselves to the bone and feeling stressed, it activates our sympathetic nervous system, also known as the “fight or flight” response. Studies show that while short-term stress can be good for you, long-term stress is terrible for your health.

But if we can train ourselves to be more resilient to the setbacks in our lives, we’re more likely to bounce back from them, a 2004 study suggests. The study found that resilient people were able to recover faster (as measured by their heart rate and blood pressure) when they used positive emotions to respond to a stressful experience.

3. Keep calm (and carry on)

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When you’re constantly in overdrive, it can lead to burnout, which as much as half of the American workforce experiences, Seppala said. But if you take time to be calm, it can help you manage your energy.

In 2014, Seppala and her colleagues conducted a small study of 21 veterans with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Half of them were assigned to do breathing meditation, and the other half received no intervention. The group that did the meditation reported lower PTSD symptoms and anxiety a month and even a year later.

Seppala told us that breathing exercises are an “absolutely critical” part of her own life, too.

4. Do more of nothing

In Western society, we have this ingrained notion that we need to constantly be doing something, or we’re not being productive. But in fact, research suggests that we are most creative when we’re not at our peak alertness.

In one 2011 study, researchers gave 428 students questionnaires to determine whether they were a morning person or an evening person, and then gave them logic problems in either the morning or late afternoon. Surprisingly, they found that morning people scored highest in the late afternoon, whereas evening people scored highest in the morning.

The findings suggest that we’re at our mental best when we’re not especially alert or focused. So if we want to be creative, we need to give ourselves more time off.

Even in our leisure time, we tend to go full bore. In surveys, when Americans are asked to define happiness, they often use words like excitement, elation, and thrill, whereas people in East Asian countries use words like peacefulness, serenity, and calm.

Seppala recommends building downtime into your workday by alternating high-intensity activities like preparing a presentation or attending a board meeting with low-intensity tasks like organizing your desk or files. And when possible, it’s a good idea to “unplug” from work completely, she said.

5. Be good to yourself

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We tend to assume that because we’re good at some things and bad at others, we should stick to our strengths. But that’s a fallacy, Seppala said.

Research suggests that a fear of failure can lead you to choke up, make you more likely to give up, lead to poor decisions such as cheating on tests or making questionable investments. It may also make it harder to pursue the career you want.

Instead, Seppala said, you should be kind to yourself, remember that everyone makes mistakes, and observe your negative thoughts from a distance without letting yourself really dwell on them.

6. Be compassionate to others

Finally, we often assume that we should be looking out for ourselves first and foremost. But in fact, research suggests that you’re better off nurturing supportive relationships with others. If you have good relationships with your boss, colleagues, or employees, you’re more likely to inspire loyalty, which in turn makes everyone more productive, Seppala said.

And you can actually train yourself to be compassionate, Seppala and her colleagues have found. People who underwent a nine-session training program at Stanford’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education had lower stress, were more empathetic, were more likely to help others, and were more resilient to the suffering of others.

“If you have supportive relationships with others, you end up doing well in the long run,” Seppala said.

Vermijd deze 10 dingen voor een gelukkig(er) leven

In het kader van de goede voornemens voor 2016 een artikel over 10 dingen die je nu nog kunt veranderen om er later geen spijt van te krijgen …

Ten things we’ll regret ten years later

“If only…” These two words paired together create one of the saddest phrases in the English language.

We found ten choices that ultimately lead to this phrase of regret. This is how you can elude them.

1. Wearing a mask to impress others

If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are. So don’t fear the judgements of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people. Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.

2. Letting someone else create your dreams for you

The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find. A big part of this is your decision to stay true to your own goals and dreams. Do you have people who disagree with you? Good. It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path. Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing.

3. Keeping negative company

Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you. Don’t let them get to you. They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun. When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.

4. Being selfish and egotistical

A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone. Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired. So carve your name on hearts, not stone. What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains.

5. Avoiding change and growth

If you want to know your past look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future look into your present actions. You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back. If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success.

6. Giving up when the going gets tough

There are no failures, just results. Even if things don’t unfold the way you had expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. Learn what you can and move on. The one who continues to advance one step at a time will win in the end. Because the battle is always won far away and long before the final victory. It’s a process that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that glorious moment of triumph.

7. Trying to micromanage every little thing

Life should be touched, not strangled. Sometimes you’ve got to relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement. Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight. Take a deep breath. When the dust settles and you can once again see the forest for the trees, take the next step forward. You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going to be headed somewhere great. Everything in life is in perfect order whether you understand it yet or not. It just takes some time to connect all the dots.

8. Settling for less than you deserve

Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve. Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before. Sometimes your eyes need to be washed by your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again. Don’t settle.

9. Endlessly waiting until tomorrow

The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do. But one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do. And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t.

10. Being lazy and wishy-washy

The world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something. So stop daydreaming and start DOING. Develop a backbone, not a wishbone. Take full responsibility for your life — take control. You are important and you are needed. It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday. Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU.


28 Positieve momenten in 2015

Met alles wat er in de wereld gaande is, vergeten we wel eens dat er ook nog mooie, positieve dingen gebeuren. Op staan 28 foto’s over positieve gebeurtenissen die in 2015 hebben plaatsgevonden. Een mooie manier om 2015 af te sluiten en iedereen hele fijne dagen en een heel GELUKKIG 2016 te wensen!

1. When this kid met his heroes:

When this kid met his heroes:

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2. Every time this old man and his dog went out:

Every time this old man and his dog went out:

3. The first day together for this happy new family:

The first day together for this happy new family:

4. When the meter homie came to the rescue:

When the meter homie came to the rescue:

5. The world’s most comforting professor:

The world's most comforting professor:

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6. When this employee helped a man feed himself:

When this employee helped a man feed himself:

7. When this shop owner promised to help those in need:

When this shop owner promised to help those in need:

8. When this dad got tickets to see Mexico play soccer for the first time:

9. Every day in the life of this newly minted dog:

Every day in the life of this newly minted dog:

10. When this man did what he thought was right:

When this man did what he thought was right:

11. When this tip was left for someone in need:

When this tip was left for someone in need:

12. These winter warmth packages around a city:

These winter warmth packages around a city:

13. When the Redbox angel gave money for snacks:

When the Redbox angel gave money for snacks:

14. When these two grandmas showed us how to act on the internet:

When these two grandmas showed us how to act on the internet:

15. When these people helped an elderly man in need:

When these people helped an elderly man in need:

16. When this man helped an old lady despite inconveniencing himself:

When this man helped an old lady despite inconveniencing himself:

17. When this cat was saved from the rain:

When this cat was saved from the rain:

18. When this girl surprised her nurse after being paralyzed:

19. When this old guy fell in love:

When this old guy fell in love:

20. When this little kid went to school lookin’ like a BOSS:

When this little kid went to school lookin' like a BOSS:

21. When this kid helped his classmate get fresh:

When this kid helped his classmate get fresh:

22. And when this man helped this other man look fresh:

And when this man helped this other man look fresh:

23. These kids lining up just to get the signature of their janitor:

These kids lining up just to get the signature of their janitor:

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24. When someone left the world’s first positive bathroom graffiti:

When someone left the world's first positive bathroom graffiti:

25. This story of library kindness:

This story of library kindness:

26. When this person did laundry for someone in need:

When this person did laundry for someone in need:

27. These garbagemen channeling their inner child:

These garbagemen channeling their inner child:

28. And when an entire community came together for this little boy’s birthday:

And when an entire community came together for this little boy's birthday:

Yeah, maybe it wasn’t all bad.

Schrijf je eigen 10 geboden voor meer geluk

Lees hier het artikel van Gretchen Rubin, best-seller auteur van o.a. The Happiness Project, over hoe je gelukkiger kunt worden door je eigen 10 geboden op te stellen (en er ook naar te leven natuurlijk ;-).

To Be Happier, Write Your Own Set of Personal Commandments.

One of the most challenging—and most helpful and fun—tasks that I’ve done as part of my Happiness Project is to write myTwelve Personal Commandments. These aren’t specific resolutions, like make my bed, but the overarching principles by which I try to live my life.

It took me several months to come up with this list, and it has been very useful for me to have them identified clearly in my mind. It’s a creative way of distilling core values.

To get you started as you think about your own commandments, here are my Twelve Commandments:

1. Be Gretchen.
2. Let it go.
3. Act the way I want to feel.
4. Do it now.
5. Be polite and be fair.
6. Enjoy the process.
7. Spend out. (This is probably the most enigmatic of my commandments.)
8. Identify the problem.
9. Lighten up.
10. Do what ought to be done.
11. No calculation.
12. There is only love.

So how do you come up with your own list?

Consider phrases that have stuck with you.
When I look at my Twelve Commandments, I realize that five of them are actually quotations from other people. My father repeatedly reminds me to “Enjoy the process.” A respected boss told me to “Be polite and be fair.” A good friend told me that she’d decided that “There is only love” in her heart for a difficult person. “No calculation” is a paraphrase of my spiritual master St. Therese (“When one loves, one does not calculate”), and “Act the way I want to feel” is a paraphrase of William James.

Aim high and fight the urge to be too comprehensive.
I’ve found that my commandments help me most when I review them at least daily, to keep them fresh in my mind, and to do this, it helps to keep the list short and snappy. I suspect that Twelve Commandments is too much. Maybe I only need two, “Be Gretchen” and “There is only love.”

Think about what’s true for you.
Each person’s list will differ. One person’s commandment is to “Say yes,” another person’s commandment is to “Say no.” You need to think about yourself, your values, your strengths and weaknesses, your interests.

I’ve written about commandments in the past, and it’s fascinating to read other people’s commandments. For instance:

Do stuff.
Talk to strangers.
Stay in touch.
Make haste to be kind.
Dig deep.
Less is more.

Have you identified some of your own personal commandments? What are they? Please consider posting them. It’s so interesting to see what other people identify.